#32 - Connected to Self or Connected to Other? Finding the Balance in Love

SUMMARY

In relationships, we often feel pulled in two directions: staying true to ourselves, or staying deeply connected to the other person. But why does it so often feel like we can only choose one?

In this episode, we explore the tension between Self and Other — how independence can sometimes create distance, while closeness can sometimes come at the cost of authenticity. We’ll look at why this paradox shows up so often, what psychology teaches us about our need for both autonomy and belonging, and how to begin finding balance.

Whether you’ve struggled with losing yourself in relationships or felt disconnected by guarding your independence, this conversation offers tools, insights, and reflections to help you hold onto both — without sacrifice.

Listen in and ask yourself: where do you tend to lean, and what would balance look like for you?

Chapters

00:00 The Balance of Self and Others

04:35 Childhood Influences on Relationships

09:13 The Importance of Safe Connections

14:37 Curiosity and Empathy in Relationships

17:24 Authenticity and Coexistence

19:35 Finding Your Balance

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